We all go through some tough times in life, that’s just life; it can’t always be a bed of roses, if we are going to learn and grow up.
However life is the total sum of your experiences, its meaning being what you make of it. The frame you use to understand your own experiences is the most important aspect of them. If you call them “learning experiences” the results will be different than if you call them “repetitive failures…”
It even gets worst when you go ahead and judge yourself in the most negative way possible, because then you are behaving like your worst enemy!
If you have this negative habit of framing your own actions in a very critical way, what happens when you go through some bad times? You tend to blame yourself, of course! It doesn’t help you find the best solution, which is what you should be doing….but keeps you repeating whatever your family did to you in the past! Yes, it’s a terrible deal, but at least we are in familiar territory, right?
Staying positive means that you see whatever happens with a frame that is compassionate to yourself. You know that you are learning, so every experience has a lesson for you, and you are here to take it!
If this more positive frame works for the good times, through the bad times it can make all the difference and can get you through the tough times with a smile.
Let’s go over on the basics of having a positive frame to make sense of your own actions. The first step is to have an honest look at the phrases you hear in your head all the time, identify them and ask yourself: whose voice is it? Many times you will recognize the voice of someone important in your childhood, mainly your parents. Then, now is the time to say: “Thanks mom for your opinion, but I prefer to see this situation as something better.”
Then, you begin peeling away at the negative propositions that your head offers you. The purpose is to transform an automatic process into a conscious one. It takes more or less one month of constant awareness to be able to replace old inherited negative frames with more functional ones….so begin working now.
But the big question is “how do you stay positive when things get tough?” Staying upbeat at times of trial is the last thing on your mind, but it should be the first, because you need to think positively now more than ever.
The key to staying positive is to detach your mind off your problems and worries, take a step aside asking yourself: “in what other perspective can I perceive this situation”? Or “what can be learned from this”?
Re-energizing your mind is especially appropriate when you are having a bad day and you would tend to feel sorry for yourself and want to sit down and cry. Well, you need to remember that it’s your choice! Frame the painful situation as your present learning opportunity, identify what you need to learn from it and move on!
You will enjoy the NEW COACHING PROGRAM, offered to help you recover your life purpose and go about your life with the best possible self-image.
Ask for the coaching FREE session offered at http://www.norafemenia.com/ , where there is skilled Life Coaching available for different personal areas in need of growth. It is designed for women needing to transform their lives, or for any person needing to change imprisoning negative self-images. Ask NOW for your FREE ebook: Embracing and healing your inner child!http://www.norafemenia.com/coaching
However life is the total sum of your experiences, its meaning being what you make of it. The frame you use to understand your own experiences is the most important aspect of them. If you call them “learning experiences” the results will be different than if you call them “repetitive failures…”
It even gets worst when you go ahead and judge yourself in the most negative way possible, because then you are behaving like your worst enemy!
If you have this negative habit of framing your own actions in a very critical way, what happens when you go through some bad times? You tend to blame yourself, of course! It doesn’t help you find the best solution, which is what you should be doing….but keeps you repeating whatever your family did to you in the past! Yes, it’s a terrible deal, but at least we are in familiar territory, right?
Staying positive means that you see whatever happens with a frame that is compassionate to yourself. You know that you are learning, so every experience has a lesson for you, and you are here to take it!
If this more positive frame works for the good times, through the bad times it can make all the difference and can get you through the tough times with a smile.
Let’s go over on the basics of having a positive frame to make sense of your own actions. The first step is to have an honest look at the phrases you hear in your head all the time, identify them and ask yourself: whose voice is it? Many times you will recognize the voice of someone important in your childhood, mainly your parents. Then, now is the time to say: “Thanks mom for your opinion, but I prefer to see this situation as something better.”
Then, you begin peeling away at the negative propositions that your head offers you. The purpose is to transform an automatic process into a conscious one. It takes more or less one month of constant awareness to be able to replace old inherited negative frames with more functional ones….so begin working now.
But the big question is “how do you stay positive when things get tough?” Staying upbeat at times of trial is the last thing on your mind, but it should be the first, because you need to think positively now more than ever.
The key to staying positive is to detach your mind off your problems and worries, take a step aside asking yourself: “in what other perspective can I perceive this situation”? Or “what can be learned from this”?
Re-energizing your mind is especially appropriate when you are having a bad day and you would tend to feel sorry for yourself and want to sit down and cry. Well, you need to remember that it’s your choice! Frame the painful situation as your present learning opportunity, identify what you need to learn from it and move on!
You will enjoy the NEW COACHING PROGRAM, offered to help you recover your life purpose and go about your life with the best possible self-image.
Ask for the coaching FREE session offered at http://www.norafemenia.com/ , where there is skilled Life Coaching available for different personal areas in need of growth. It is designed for women needing to transform their lives, or for any person needing to change imprisoning negative self-images. Ask NOW for your FREE ebook: Embracing and healing your inner child!http://www.norafemenia.com/coaching
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