Reading this interesting article about the Chimpanzees, I can't but speculate how much of this behaviour we mirror ourselves.
Kids are particularly vulnerable to the social pressure to conform to society rules and as adults wear some of these attitudes without even realizing that we are doing it.
Don't take me wrong, some degree of conformity is needed, but sometimes we approach our relations, more looking on how they will be seen from the outside, than what really is going on between us.
Tuesday, August 30, 2005
Friday, August 26, 2005
Quote of the Day
"Before you agree to do anything that might add even the smallest amount of stress to your life, ask yourself:
What is my truest intention?
Give yourself time to let a yes resound within you.
When it’s right, I guarantee that your entire body will feel it."
Oprah Winfrey, O Magazine, October 2002
Quotations Weblog
What is my truest intention?
Give yourself time to let a yes resound within you.
When it’s right, I guarantee that your entire body will feel it."
Oprah Winfrey, O Magazine, October 2002
Quotations Weblog
Monday, August 22, 2005
Creative Problem Solving
The InnovationMarketers blog has a great post that give the 7 steps to be more open to creative problem solving.
Read it and live by the steps
1. Visualize ultimate success
2. Be still and know that the answer is within you
3. Be patient
4. Create a positive environment
5. Take time away
6. Engage others in the creative process
7. Meditate
InnovationMarketers blog: Creative Problem Solving
Read it and live by the steps
1. Visualize ultimate success
2. Be still and know that the answer is within you
3. Be patient
4. Create a positive environment
5. Take time away
6. Engage others in the creative process
7. Meditate
InnovationMarketers blog: Creative Problem Solving
Tuesday, August 16, 2005
Do you feel the Pain?
From INC:
It didn’t make any sense. Kevin Steele, co-owner of Karaoke Star, a Phoenix retailer of karaoke equipment, noticed that the number of people clicking on his paid search-engine ads had shot from 200 to 800 a day. But despite the apparent jump in traffic, sales hadn’t budged. Steele and his partner, Diana Frerick, had built their business on Internet advertising, and more clicks almost always meant more revenue—which the pair had invested in a new office, more inventory, and a call center to field technical questions.
Full text So Many Clicks, So Few Sales
It didn’t make any sense. Kevin Steele, co-owner of Karaoke Star, a Phoenix retailer of karaoke equipment, noticed that the number of people clicking on his paid search-engine ads had shot from 200 to 800 a day. But despite the apparent jump in traffic, sales hadn’t budged. Steele and his partner, Diana Frerick, had built their business on Internet advertising, and more clicks almost always meant more revenue—which the pair had invested in a new office, more inventory, and a call center to field technical questions.
Full text So Many Clicks, So Few Sales
BlogHer bits
While anger can be used as a tool, sometimes the person who’s angry is a tool.
Read More: the [non]billable hour: Blogher Brain Dump
Read More: the [non]billable hour: Blogher Brain Dump
Monday, August 15, 2005
Who are you, really?
Many times, when people ask me "Where are you from", and I can't give a straight answer, I realize that the way we define our identity have not evolved with the time.
Sherry has put an article on asking a the simple question of Who are you :
"When I ask people the question 'Who are you?' I'm usually greeted with silence. People are not sure; in fact, some have never even stopped to think about it.
Can u imagine living all your life without knowing who you really are?
Once people recover from the initial surprise of the question they respond with all kinds of definitions, most of which are based on their character or abilities."
Read moreisolated hideout
Sherry has put an article on asking a the simple question of Who are you :
"When I ask people the question 'Who are you?' I'm usually greeted with silence. People are not sure; in fact, some have never even stopped to think about it.
Can u imagine living all your life without knowing who you really are?
Once people recover from the initial surprise of the question they respond with all kinds of definitions, most of which are based on their character or abilities."
Read moreisolated hideout
Positive Coaching Program
Why do we describe conflict as positive?
Learn the connection between change and growth and conflict!
You will never know what you can do without challenge and opposition.
You will never develop new skills if sheer necessity does not force us to do so.
In short, without conflict, YOU will never grow.
When you engage others in positive conflict, you are telling them that he/she is important enough for you to invest some energy in improving the relationship, by challenging the sore points in it.
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You will never know what you can do without challenge and opposition.
You will never develop new skills if sheer necessity does not force us to do so.
In short, without conflict, YOU will never grow.
When you engage others in positive conflict, you are telling them that he/she is important enough for you to invest some energy in improving the relationship, by challenging the sore points in it.
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Wednesday, August 10, 2005
12 useful negotiating tips
Twelve Useful Negotiating Tips
By Tristan Loo
1. Avoid the YOU and “YOUR words at all costs when dealing with an angry person. "You did this." Or "“It was your fault"” is a direct attack on the person you are talking to and they're instinct will be to defend themselves or counterattack.
2. Speak very softly when your counterpart is yelling. This voice-leading technique will force them to lower their own voice to match yours. It will also force them to listen better in order to hear your words. Remember that the tone of your voice as an amazing power to either escalate or deescalate a confrontation.
3. Don't react to personal attacks, or try to defend them. This will only make you into a punching bag for additional attacks. Instead, acknowledge those attacks as an attack on the problem that you both share and work with your counterpart on trying to find a solution.
Read the other 9: 12 useful negotiating tips
By Tristan Loo
1. Avoid the YOU and “YOUR words at all costs when dealing with an angry person. "You did this." Or "“It was your fault"” is a direct attack on the person you are talking to and they're instinct will be to defend themselves or counterattack.
2. Speak very softly when your counterpart is yelling. This voice-leading technique will force them to lower their own voice to match yours. It will also force them to listen better in order to hear your words. Remember that the tone of your voice as an amazing power to either escalate or deescalate a confrontation.
3. Don't react to personal attacks, or try to defend them. This will only make you into a punching bag for additional attacks. Instead, acknowledge those attacks as an attack on the problem that you both share and work with your counterpart on trying to find a solution.
Read the other 9: 12 useful negotiating tips
Tuesday, August 09, 2005
Are your afraid of Conflict?
You have experienced your share of conflict in your life (—and who hasn't? )
You may even be afraid of conflict.
Perhaps you lost big time when you tried to impose your views on your spouse; or your best friendship ended in sour recriminations that nobody wanted, but nobody could stop.
What are the lessons?
What did you learn?
To go the other way, of course!
The reaction can be so extreme as to deny any conflict..
Learn this and Much more at: Your FREE Positive Coaching Program: (email subscription requested)
You may even be afraid of conflict.
Perhaps you lost big time when you tried to impose your views on your spouse; or your best friendship ended in sour recriminations that nobody wanted, but nobody could stop.
What are the lessons?
What did you learn?
To go the other way, of course!
The reaction can be so extreme as to deny any conflict..
Learn this and Much more at: Your FREE Positive Coaching Program: (email subscription requested)
What is their story?
This is a nice piece that show us how personal is the perception of the reality.
When confronted to conflict we should see if we can view the reality from the story that the other side presents..
Small Business - Be a Better Liar Page: "Be a Better Liar"
When confronted to conflict we should see if we can view the reality from the story that the other side presents..
Small Business - Be a Better Liar Page: "Be a Better Liar"
Sunday, August 07, 2005
Rules of Productive Fighting
Sonny G. has this interesting article on the Art of Fair Fighting.
4. Don't talk trash; don't call each other names........ like - you're a POS, you look like a @#%&*, you're a liar, you're a pig. Or words that tend to put down and demean the other. If your partner is a liar, or a pig why did you marry him/her?The things you say in anger actually boomerangs and makes you look stupid. Talking trash is verbal violence. It hurts the person in a deeper way. It strikes at the core, the persona, the gut. Words spoken that hurt the persona are never forgotten even if forgiven. When things go bad between you and your mate, as they sometimes do, hurting words are remembered and the pain recurs.
Read Full article:Sonny's Page: More on the Rules of Productive Fighting ..............: "
4. Don't talk trash; don't call each other names........ like - you're a POS, you look like a @#%&*, you're a liar, you're a pig. Or words that tend to put down and demean the other. If your partner is a liar, or a pig why did you marry him/her?The things you say in anger actually boomerangs and makes you look stupid. Talking trash is verbal violence. It hurts the person in a deeper way. It strikes at the core, the persona, the gut. Words spoken that hurt the persona are never forgotten even if forgiven. When things go bad between you and your mate, as they sometimes do, hurting words are remembered and the pain recurs.
Read Full article:Sonny's Page: More on the Rules of Productive Fighting ..............: "
Saturday, August 06, 2005
A 5 days Positive Coaching Program
Does this strike a cord for you?
Conflict seems to be the very stuff of life, bringing up all the most difficult emotions — anger, mistrust, resentment, loneliness — and the saddest outcomes. It makes us sad, depressed, but also unhealthy.
A broken heart is not only a metaphor, but a reality: the physical consequences of aggression and fighting are felt much longer after a strong discussion ends, in the whole body. High conflict situations can literally and really kill you or make your heart suffer."
To take this 5 days Free course:
Your FREE Positive Coaching Program: (email subscription requested)
Conflict seems to be the very stuff of life, bringing up all the most difficult emotions — anger, mistrust, resentment, loneliness — and the saddest outcomes. It makes us sad, depressed, but also unhealthy.
A broken heart is not only a metaphor, but a reality: the physical consequences of aggression and fighting are felt much longer after a strong discussion ends, in the whole body. High conflict situations can literally and really kill you or make your heart suffer."
To take this 5 days Free course:
Your FREE Positive Coaching Program: (email subscription requested)
Friday, August 05, 2005
Workplace Conflicts : How to survive a bad Manager
The best advice for having a bad manager is to seek other employment. Don't undervalue your happiness: it's impossible to be happy if you work directly for someone you canÂ’t stand. It may be difficult to find another job, but if you are willing to make compromises in other areas (salary, position, project, location, etc.) it will certainly be possible. Being happy and underpaid is a much better way to spend a life than unhappy and anything else.
How to survive a bad manager - scottberkun.com
How to survive a bad manager - scottberkun.com
Thursday, August 04, 2005
Conflict Resolution in the classroom
Adrian has put a good paper of using Conflict Resolution with their students.
more: Using Peer Mediation Helps Students Resolve Conflict:
Adrian H. Cline, Superintendent"
more: Using Peer Mediation Helps Students Resolve Conflict:
Adrian H. Cline, Superintendent"
Secrets to reload your batteries
Today I was kind of lost in the details of daily chores, with the impression that I was not moving, when I stumbe into this posting from MellowQueen. Sometimes you just have to ask the questions, and the answers will come..
Have you ever started a new project full to the brim with enthusiasm only to have your enthusiasm and motivation wane as the months go by?
read more:
Mellow Queen: 5 Tips To Increase Your Personal Power
(Thanks mellowqueen!)
Have you ever started a new project full to the brim with enthusiasm only to have your enthusiasm and motivation wane as the months go by?
read more:
Mellow Queen: 5 Tips To Increase Your Personal Power
(Thanks mellowqueen!)
Wednesday, August 03, 2005
Something for the office politics
Cultivate your Knowledge: "Office Conflict Resolution
Tuesday, August 02, 2005
from Melissa C. Stöppler, M.D.,
Your Guide to Stress Management.Communication Tips for a Healthy Workplace
Misunderstandings and communication problems remain one of the most common sources of workplace strife. While conflict is inevitable, it need not ruin your workday or cause unbearable stress. Try these conflict resolution tips to make your work environment a less stressful, more productive place.
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This is a nice article on workplace CR . I think there is a need to recognize the conflict resolution is a skill that managers have to master. But it has not make its way to a MB curricula yet.
Tuesday, August 02, 2005
from Melissa C. Stöppler, M.D.,
Your Guide to Stress Management.Communication Tips for a Healthy Workplace
Misunderstandings and communication problems remain one of the most common sources of workplace strife. While conflict is inevitable, it need not ruin your workday or cause unbearable stress. Try these conflict resolution tips to make your work environment a less stressful, more productive place.
"
This is a nice article on workplace CR . I think there is a need to recognize the conflict resolution is a skill that managers have to master. But it has not make its way to a MB curricula yet.
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