Have you ever found yourself thinking something like this string of thoughts?:
“This person is yelling at me, like she is attacking me, so she must be against me, so she is my enemy. If this person is my enemy, then, by definition, she is incapable of change and improvement, and is undeserving of trust and respect, now and forever. I have to defend myself against this person, who will always be violent and aggressive towards me. And if she does this to me, she will do it to others. Let’s rally Others against her!”
Well, this is the basic Conflict Frame, where we destroy others in self-defense and end up lonely and feared. When relationships are challenging, and you feel alone battling against others, focus on regaining some control over emotional chaos. You have the power of reframing the way you position yourself in interpersonal disputes, so not to give in to this destructive Conflict frame, or “me against the world” attitude.
The first step that your Conflict Coach would invite you to do is to take a deep breath and suspend the usual thoughts about being “a victim attacked by others” (spouse, boss, world, etc). This is the usual story that we tell ourselves: how we are in the right and the others are unjust, aggressive, etc toward us. Try to position yourself in an intermediary position, and look at you, your behavior and attitudes in a neutral way, while reflecting on the other side from the same neutral view.
The steps taking charge of the situation are:
1. Avoid defining yourself as the only victim:
Both sides have a valid story to tell; all depends where from you see the picture. Both are victims and aggressors, in different ways.
Ask the basic question:
Why this conflict appears now in my life?
You will regain ownership of your side of the conflict, and understand why you are inside it. Is it because it helps to hide other problems you don’t want to see?
No fight is Armageddon, yet, so don’t give your personal squabble more importance than it has. It’s only a dispute, so lower its importance and don’t let it take over the rest of your life. With perspective, you can even laugh at watching yourself in this movie, doing the same things as in all other personal movies….. Has this kind of dispute happened before? Do you find yourself always dealing with people with the same characteristics? Why do you need to have it played all over again?
Best wishes,
Nora Femenia, Ph.D.
Conflict Coaching
http://www.norafemenia.com
Call (954) 568-3620 now to schedule your FREE 15-minute interview.
I look forward to hearing from you and finding out how Conflict Coaching can empower your life!
Thursday, December 15, 2005
Friday, November 18, 2005
“HOLIDAY BLUES” avoidance plan
Feelinig lonely or isolated in this period of Thanksgiving?
Take these steps for a "Blues Free" celebration!
What is the most important element in your relationships with others this Holiday Season?
To be based on positive feelings of belonging and love, right?
Here we are again, looking at a new holiday season.It provides us with several opportunities to reevaluate where we are and who loves us…..and who doesn’t. Perhaps this year the holidays are helping you find ways to reconnect again, and bridge past conflicts!
This season is the time of the year where families come closer to celebrate, and also a period where we evaluate ourselves. Do you find too much grief in your situation? Have you had a big confrontation this year with a loved one? Perhaps you saw a good relationship fizzle and disappear because there was love, but also too much confrontation and you both never learned how to manage conflict and differences without inflicting permanent wounds?
If you carry on a baggage of past painful misunderstandings or love/hate relationships, the end of the year is also a period where you may feel stressed and depressed, and your heart filled with sadness and regret. Worst, you can be feeling alone and isolated from the people you love! Where is the acceptance and recognition that you, as everybody else, crave?
It is possible to change those feelings, by taking some positive actions to improve your present relationships. If you take positive action now to truly understand what those conflicts are about, you will be in a better position to take corrective actions, and bring those you truly love closer to you.
Even if not everything can be fixed now, some gestures of good will, done sincerely will give you peace of mind because you will have made honest attempts to improve the situation. Damaged relationships carry a lot of hurt and resentment and it may take some time for things to settle down, if there is a sustained effort at making things right again.
So put your plan A today in action, and have a better, purposefully tailored holiday season. End of the year blues can be avoided if you act now on purpose to improve your relationships.
Plan “A”
Forget the past confrontation, family is family. Do a “good will gesture” as sending flowers or a food present to the house of the person you miss more. Write a nice card, saying only something like: “appreciating your love, always”
Put time aside to be able to share and talk. Visit people and ask simply for a little time to talk. You can also offer to only focus on the positive aspects of the past history. Forget if you were right or not; DO NOT mention negative aspects of the past. Try to identify the positive aspects of the relationship, and say that you are grateful for those aspects.
Do a little reconciliation: offer an apology for your share of the problems; be grateful if the other side is willing to spend time with you. You could be so brave as to ask for his/her suggestions about improving the relationship in the future!
Whatever your feelings are, DO NOT give in to depression and disappear: be present in any way you can: flowers, card, phone call.
Plan “B”:
Not ready to face anyone yet?
Organize your holidays: have a clear idea of what you are going to do. If not sharing time with family, find friends, or go volunteer in a church or charity organization to help with holiday preparations.
You will find people there who will see and recognize you as a wonderful, generous person. Take that recognition, because that is what you need. Perhaps after the holidays, it helps you think a plan to restore relationships with the people you love for next year!
NEIL WARNER
www.positiveconflicts.com
Take these steps for a "Blues Free" celebration!
What is the most important element in your relationships with others this Holiday Season?
To be based on positive feelings of belonging and love, right?
Here we are again, looking at a new holiday season.It provides us with several opportunities to reevaluate where we are and who loves us…..and who doesn’t. Perhaps this year the holidays are helping you find ways to reconnect again, and bridge past conflicts!
This season is the time of the year where families come closer to celebrate, and also a period where we evaluate ourselves. Do you find too much grief in your situation? Have you had a big confrontation this year with a loved one? Perhaps you saw a good relationship fizzle and disappear because there was love, but also too much confrontation and you both never learned how to manage conflict and differences without inflicting permanent wounds?
If you carry on a baggage of past painful misunderstandings or love/hate relationships, the end of the year is also a period where you may feel stressed and depressed, and your heart filled with sadness and regret. Worst, you can be feeling alone and isolated from the people you love! Where is the acceptance and recognition that you, as everybody else, crave?
It is possible to change those feelings, by taking some positive actions to improve your present relationships. If you take positive action now to truly understand what those conflicts are about, you will be in a better position to take corrective actions, and bring those you truly love closer to you.
Even if not everything can be fixed now, some gestures of good will, done sincerely will give you peace of mind because you will have made honest attempts to improve the situation. Damaged relationships carry a lot of hurt and resentment and it may take some time for things to settle down, if there is a sustained effort at making things right again.
So put your plan A today in action, and have a better, purposefully tailored holiday season. End of the year blues can be avoided if you act now on purpose to improve your relationships.
Plan “A”
Forget the past confrontation, family is family. Do a “good will gesture” as sending flowers or a food present to the house of the person you miss more. Write a nice card, saying only something like: “appreciating your love, always”
Put time aside to be able to share and talk. Visit people and ask simply for a little time to talk. You can also offer to only focus on the positive aspects of the past history. Forget if you were right or not; DO NOT mention negative aspects of the past. Try to identify the positive aspects of the relationship, and say that you are grateful for those aspects.
Do a little reconciliation: offer an apology for your share of the problems; be grateful if the other side is willing to spend time with you. You could be so brave as to ask for his/her suggestions about improving the relationship in the future!
Whatever your feelings are, DO NOT give in to depression and disappear: be present in any way you can: flowers, card, phone call.
Plan “B”:
Not ready to face anyone yet?
Organize your holidays: have a clear idea of what you are going to do. If not sharing time with family, find friends, or go volunteer in a church or charity organization to help with holiday preparations.
You will find people there who will see and recognize you as a wonderful, generous person. Take that recognition, because that is what you need. Perhaps after the holidays, it helps you think a plan to restore relationships with the people you love for next year!
NEIL WARNER
www.positiveconflicts.com
Monday, October 24, 2005
The answers are within you, my friend.
What do you do when you have to take a decision?
I normally will delay until I have the feeling that is the right moment.
I know it is not a rational way to handle this things, but I seems to work for me.
For other circumstances a more methodological approach may be handy. And that is exactly what Gina Trapani describes in her article:Four ways to make a big decision. But take this approach with a grain of salt. If your subject is of the soul searching type, you may use this method to justify what your guts are telling you. When you take a decision, make it in your mind and in your heart.
Geek to Live: Four ways to make a big decision - Lifehacker
To your success,
Juan Pablo
You have the power to transform your conflicts, into positive energy
I normally will delay until I have the feeling that is the right moment.
I know it is not a rational way to handle this things, but I seems to work for me.
For other circumstances a more methodological approach may be handy. And that is exactly what Gina Trapani describes in her article:Four ways to make a big decision. But take this approach with a grain of salt. If your subject is of the soul searching type, you may use this method to justify what your guts are telling you. When you take a decision, make it in your mind and in your heart.
Geek to Live: Four ways to make a big decision - Lifehacker
To your success,
Juan Pablo
You have the power to transform your conflicts, into positive energy
Monday, October 17, 2005
Gear up your Optimism
Our views are highly influenced by our own internal feelings.
By cultivating a positive view, we can make our life much better, and we will be more open to accept what life has to offer, talking much of the stress that is generated when we fight against adversity.
This does not mean we need to forget our dreams and needs. It means that evey event can be seen in a necessary step that will bring us closer to our goals.
INTERPRETING EXPERIENCE POSITIVELY:
(1) Selective Focus: Emphasizing the enjoyable, constructive, open aspects of life.
(2) Refraining from Complaining: Avoiding pointless complaining and whining about oneÂ’s difficulties. Taking the world as it is and not complaining that life isnÂ’t fair.
(3) Questioning Limits: A constructive skepticism that challenges the limiting beliefs held by ourselves, our associates, and our society. A fundamental creative openness to possibilities.
(4) Sense of Abundance: Feeling free to do what you want, rather than feeling compelled by circumstances or people. Recognizing the world to be full of opportunities. Being for things, not against things.
(5) Humor: Seeing oneÂ’s own shortcomings with a sense of humor. Allowing healthy, good-natured humor to reveal new perspectives and combat dogmatic thinking.
INFLUENCING OUTCOMES POSITIVELY:
(6) Rational: Using reason rather than being lead by fears and desires. Objectively assessing situations and taking action based on understanding reality apart from our wishes.
(7) Self-Improving: Optimists see the self as a process and seek continual improvement. Their drive to improve is not pushed by fear but pulled by a inspiring self-image.
(8) Experimental: Frequently trying fresh approaches, staying out of ruts, actively seeking more effective ways of achieving goals, and being willing to take calculated risks.
(9) Self-Confident: Believing that we can bring about good things. A fundamental conviction of competence in living.
(10) Self-Worth: Believing one is worthy of success and happiness. Without this, attempts to improve oneÂ’s life will lack motivation.
(11) Personal Responsibility: Taking charge and creating the conditions for success. Being aware of how we determine our chances of success. This crucially involves integrity: living according to one'’s values.
(12) Selecting Environment: Being attracted to positive people and situations. Seeking out those who will support and inspire, not discourage, distract, and undermine.
Source The Occupational Adventure (sm): Dynamic optimism
Juan Pablo Mattenet
You have the power to transform your conflicts, into positive energy
By cultivating a positive view, we can make our life much better, and we will be more open to accept what life has to offer, talking much of the stress that is generated when we fight against adversity.
This does not mean we need to forget our dreams and needs. It means that evey event can be seen in a necessary step that will bring us closer to our goals.
INTERPRETING EXPERIENCE POSITIVELY:
(1) Selective Focus: Emphasizing the enjoyable, constructive, open aspects of life.
(2) Refraining from Complaining: Avoiding pointless complaining and whining about oneÂ’s difficulties. Taking the world as it is and not complaining that life isnÂ’t fair.
(3) Questioning Limits: A constructive skepticism that challenges the limiting beliefs held by ourselves, our associates, and our society. A fundamental creative openness to possibilities.
(4) Sense of Abundance: Feeling free to do what you want, rather than feeling compelled by circumstances or people. Recognizing the world to be full of opportunities. Being for things, not against things.
(5) Humor: Seeing oneÂ’s own shortcomings with a sense of humor. Allowing healthy, good-natured humor to reveal new perspectives and combat dogmatic thinking.
INFLUENCING OUTCOMES POSITIVELY:
(6) Rational: Using reason rather than being lead by fears and desires. Objectively assessing situations and taking action based on understanding reality apart from our wishes.
(7) Self-Improving: Optimists see the self as a process and seek continual improvement. Their drive to improve is not pushed by fear but pulled by a inspiring self-image.
(8) Experimental: Frequently trying fresh approaches, staying out of ruts, actively seeking more effective ways of achieving goals, and being willing to take calculated risks.
(9) Self-Confident: Believing that we can bring about good things. A fundamental conviction of competence in living.
(10) Self-Worth: Believing one is worthy of success and happiness. Without this, attempts to improve oneÂ’s life will lack motivation.
(11) Personal Responsibility: Taking charge and creating the conditions for success. Being aware of how we determine our chances of success. This crucially involves integrity: living according to one'’s values.
(12) Selecting Environment: Being attracted to positive people and situations. Seeking out those who will support and inspire, not discourage, distract, and undermine.
Source The Occupational Adventure (sm): Dynamic optimism
Juan Pablo Mattenet
You have the power to transform your conflicts, into positive energy
Monday, September 19, 2005
More food for the mind
The Stockdale Paradox
How do you keep your Optimism in the adversity?
This short text has a diamond at the very end.
And yes, I think that at the end we will prevail.
Enjoy
Juan Pablo Mattenet
Transform your Conflicts into positive energy!
How do you keep your Optimism in the adversity?
This short text has a diamond at the very end.
And yes, I think that at the end we will prevail.
Enjoy
Juan Pablo Mattenet
Transform your Conflicts into positive energy!
Tuesday, September 13, 2005
Feeding your Brain bit by bit
Conflicts, are seldom related to how we feel about ourselves in relation to the others.
Comparing is then a good thing to do. Right?
Think, then read the rest:
DailyOM - Comparing Yourself To Others
Juan Pablo Mattenet
PositiveConflicts.com
Comparing is then a good thing to do. Right?
Think, then read the rest:
DailyOM - Comparing Yourself To Others
Juan Pablo Mattenet
PositiveConflicts.com
Friday, September 09, 2005
Imprisoned by your thoughts?
“Problems exist only in the human mind.”
-- Anthony de Mello
For most of us, there's always a long 'to do' list.
That's a fact.
And it's easy to feel victimized. 'Poor me!'’
That'’s not a fact. That is a choice.
Experiment with your life to explore how much your mind is your jailer. Simply let go of the '‘oh woe'’ kinds of thoughts. Silence your mind. Be right here, right now. Decide what you will do now and do it, without buying in to the mind'’s sob story. When one task is done, you can then choose another.
Allowing the mind to agonize about the size of the '‘to do' list just makes us tired before we even get started. It doesn'’t have to be this way.
'“Don't water your weeds.'
Meet life's challenges in a whole new way
-- Anthony de Mello
For most of us, there's always a long 'to do' list.
That's a fact.
And it's easy to feel victimized. 'Poor me!'’
That'’s not a fact. That is a choice.
Experiment with your life to explore how much your mind is your jailer. Simply let go of the '‘oh woe'’ kinds of thoughts. Silence your mind. Be right here, right now. Decide what you will do now and do it, without buying in to the mind'’s sob story. When one task is done, you can then choose another.
Allowing the mind to agonize about the size of the '‘to do' list just makes us tired before we even get started. It doesn'’t have to be this way.
'“Don't water your weeds.'
Meet life's challenges in a whole new way
Tuesday, September 06, 2005
Don't take it personally (Sound Advice?)
One of the difficulties on handling conflicts is that we tend to take them personally. This short post has some advice on detaching the People from the actions.
Read more Sowing the Seeds of Glorious Living!:
Read more Sowing the Seeds of Glorious Living!:
Friday, September 02, 2005
Escalation of Interpersonal Conflict
Conflict is a part of most every interpersonal relationship.
Managing conflict, then, is important if the relationship is to be long-lasting and rewarding. Learning how to manage conflict involves being able to identify the steps in any escalating confrontation, and being able to stop the escalation and do emotional repair by reinforcing the positive aspects of the relationship."
More: Escalation of Interpersonal Conflict:
Managing conflict, then, is important if the relationship is to be long-lasting and rewarding. Learning how to manage conflict involves being able to identify the steps in any escalating confrontation, and being able to stop the escalation and do emotional repair by reinforcing the positive aspects of the relationship."
More: Escalation of Interpersonal Conflict:
Tuesday, August 30, 2005
Conformity, Why is so attractive
Reading this interesting article about the Chimpanzees, I can't but speculate how much of this behaviour we mirror ourselves.
Kids are particularly vulnerable to the social pressure to conform to society rules and as adults wear some of these attitudes without even realizing that we are doing it.
Don't take me wrong, some degree of conformity is needed, but sometimes we approach our relations, more looking on how they will be seen from the outside, than what really is going on between us.
Kids are particularly vulnerable to the social pressure to conform to society rules and as adults wear some of these attitudes without even realizing that we are doing it.
Don't take me wrong, some degree of conformity is needed, but sometimes we approach our relations, more looking on how they will be seen from the outside, than what really is going on between us.
Friday, August 26, 2005
Quote of the Day
"Before you agree to do anything that might add even the smallest amount of stress to your life, ask yourself:
What is my truest intention?
Give yourself time to let a yes resound within you.
When it’s right, I guarantee that your entire body will feel it."
Oprah Winfrey, O Magazine, October 2002
Quotations Weblog
What is my truest intention?
Give yourself time to let a yes resound within you.
When it’s right, I guarantee that your entire body will feel it."
Oprah Winfrey, O Magazine, October 2002
Quotations Weblog
Monday, August 22, 2005
Creative Problem Solving
The InnovationMarketers blog has a great post that give the 7 steps to be more open to creative problem solving.
Read it and live by the steps
1. Visualize ultimate success
2. Be still and know that the answer is within you
3. Be patient
4. Create a positive environment
5. Take time away
6. Engage others in the creative process
7. Meditate
InnovationMarketers blog: Creative Problem Solving
Read it and live by the steps
1. Visualize ultimate success
2. Be still and know that the answer is within you
3. Be patient
4. Create a positive environment
5. Take time away
6. Engage others in the creative process
7. Meditate
InnovationMarketers blog: Creative Problem Solving
Tuesday, August 16, 2005
Do you feel the Pain?
From INC:
It didn’t make any sense. Kevin Steele, co-owner of Karaoke Star, a Phoenix retailer of karaoke equipment, noticed that the number of people clicking on his paid search-engine ads had shot from 200 to 800 a day. But despite the apparent jump in traffic, sales hadn’t budged. Steele and his partner, Diana Frerick, had built their business on Internet advertising, and more clicks almost always meant more revenue—which the pair had invested in a new office, more inventory, and a call center to field technical questions.
Full text So Many Clicks, So Few Sales
It didn’t make any sense. Kevin Steele, co-owner of Karaoke Star, a Phoenix retailer of karaoke equipment, noticed that the number of people clicking on his paid search-engine ads had shot from 200 to 800 a day. But despite the apparent jump in traffic, sales hadn’t budged. Steele and his partner, Diana Frerick, had built their business on Internet advertising, and more clicks almost always meant more revenue—which the pair had invested in a new office, more inventory, and a call center to field technical questions.
Full text So Many Clicks, So Few Sales
BlogHer bits
While anger can be used as a tool, sometimes the person who’s angry is a tool.
Read More: the [non]billable hour: Blogher Brain Dump
Read More: the [non]billable hour: Blogher Brain Dump
Monday, August 15, 2005
Who are you, really?
Many times, when people ask me "Where are you from", and I can't give a straight answer, I realize that the way we define our identity have not evolved with the time.
Sherry has put an article on asking a the simple question of Who are you :
"When I ask people the question 'Who are you?' I'm usually greeted with silence. People are not sure; in fact, some have never even stopped to think about it.
Can u imagine living all your life without knowing who you really are?
Once people recover from the initial surprise of the question they respond with all kinds of definitions, most of which are based on their character or abilities."
Read moreisolated hideout
Sherry has put an article on asking a the simple question of Who are you :
"When I ask people the question 'Who are you?' I'm usually greeted with silence. People are not sure; in fact, some have never even stopped to think about it.
Can u imagine living all your life without knowing who you really are?
Once people recover from the initial surprise of the question they respond with all kinds of definitions, most of which are based on their character or abilities."
Read moreisolated hideout
Positive Coaching Program
Why do we describe conflict as positive?
Learn the connection between change and growth and conflict!
You will never know what you can do without challenge and opposition.
You will never develop new skills if sheer necessity does not force us to do so.
In short, without conflict, YOU will never grow.
When you engage others in positive conflict, you are telling them that he/she is important enough for you to invest some energy in improving the relationship, by challenging the sore points in it.
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You will never know what you can do without challenge and opposition.
You will never develop new skills if sheer necessity does not force us to do so.
In short, without conflict, YOU will never grow.
When you engage others in positive conflict, you are telling them that he/she is important enough for you to invest some energy in improving the relationship, by challenging the sore points in it.
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Wednesday, August 10, 2005
12 useful negotiating tips
Twelve Useful Negotiating Tips
By Tristan Loo
1. Avoid the YOU and “YOUR words at all costs when dealing with an angry person. "You did this." Or "“It was your fault"” is a direct attack on the person you are talking to and they're instinct will be to defend themselves or counterattack.
2. Speak very softly when your counterpart is yelling. This voice-leading technique will force them to lower their own voice to match yours. It will also force them to listen better in order to hear your words. Remember that the tone of your voice as an amazing power to either escalate or deescalate a confrontation.
3. Don't react to personal attacks, or try to defend them. This will only make you into a punching bag for additional attacks. Instead, acknowledge those attacks as an attack on the problem that you both share and work with your counterpart on trying to find a solution.
Read the other 9: 12 useful negotiating tips
By Tristan Loo
1. Avoid the YOU and “YOUR words at all costs when dealing with an angry person. "You did this." Or "“It was your fault"” is a direct attack on the person you are talking to and they're instinct will be to defend themselves or counterattack.
2. Speak very softly when your counterpart is yelling. This voice-leading technique will force them to lower their own voice to match yours. It will also force them to listen better in order to hear your words. Remember that the tone of your voice as an amazing power to either escalate or deescalate a confrontation.
3. Don't react to personal attacks, or try to defend them. This will only make you into a punching bag for additional attacks. Instead, acknowledge those attacks as an attack on the problem that you both share and work with your counterpart on trying to find a solution.
Read the other 9: 12 useful negotiating tips
Tuesday, August 09, 2005
Are your afraid of Conflict?
You have experienced your share of conflict in your life (—and who hasn't? )
You may even be afraid of conflict.
Perhaps you lost big time when you tried to impose your views on your spouse; or your best friendship ended in sour recriminations that nobody wanted, but nobody could stop.
What are the lessons?
What did you learn?
To go the other way, of course!
The reaction can be so extreme as to deny any conflict..
Learn this and Much more at: Your FREE Positive Coaching Program: (email subscription requested)
You may even be afraid of conflict.
Perhaps you lost big time when you tried to impose your views on your spouse; or your best friendship ended in sour recriminations that nobody wanted, but nobody could stop.
What are the lessons?
What did you learn?
To go the other way, of course!
The reaction can be so extreme as to deny any conflict..
Learn this and Much more at: Your FREE Positive Coaching Program: (email subscription requested)
What is their story?
This is a nice piece that show us how personal is the perception of the reality.
When confronted to conflict we should see if we can view the reality from the story that the other side presents..
Small Business - Be a Better Liar Page: "Be a Better Liar"
When confronted to conflict we should see if we can view the reality from the story that the other side presents..
Small Business - Be a Better Liar Page: "Be a Better Liar"
Sunday, August 07, 2005
Rules of Productive Fighting
Sonny G. has this interesting article on the Art of Fair Fighting.
4. Don't talk trash; don't call each other names........ like - you're a POS, you look like a @#%&*, you're a liar, you're a pig. Or words that tend to put down and demean the other. If your partner is a liar, or a pig why did you marry him/her?The things you say in anger actually boomerangs and makes you look stupid. Talking trash is verbal violence. It hurts the person in a deeper way. It strikes at the core, the persona, the gut. Words spoken that hurt the persona are never forgotten even if forgiven. When things go bad between you and your mate, as they sometimes do, hurting words are remembered and the pain recurs.
Read Full article:Sonny's Page: More on the Rules of Productive Fighting ..............: "
4. Don't talk trash; don't call each other names........ like - you're a POS, you look like a @#%&*, you're a liar, you're a pig. Or words that tend to put down and demean the other. If your partner is a liar, or a pig why did you marry him/her?The things you say in anger actually boomerangs and makes you look stupid. Talking trash is verbal violence. It hurts the person in a deeper way. It strikes at the core, the persona, the gut. Words spoken that hurt the persona are never forgotten even if forgiven. When things go bad between you and your mate, as they sometimes do, hurting words are remembered and the pain recurs.
Read Full article:Sonny's Page: More on the Rules of Productive Fighting ..............: "
Saturday, August 06, 2005
A 5 days Positive Coaching Program
Does this strike a cord for you?
Conflict seems to be the very stuff of life, bringing up all the most difficult emotions — anger, mistrust, resentment, loneliness — and the saddest outcomes. It makes us sad, depressed, but also unhealthy.
A broken heart is not only a metaphor, but a reality: the physical consequences of aggression and fighting are felt much longer after a strong discussion ends, in the whole body. High conflict situations can literally and really kill you or make your heart suffer."
To take this 5 days Free course:
Your FREE Positive Coaching Program: (email subscription requested)
Conflict seems to be the very stuff of life, bringing up all the most difficult emotions — anger, mistrust, resentment, loneliness — and the saddest outcomes. It makes us sad, depressed, but also unhealthy.
A broken heart is not only a metaphor, but a reality: the physical consequences of aggression and fighting are felt much longer after a strong discussion ends, in the whole body. High conflict situations can literally and really kill you or make your heart suffer."
To take this 5 days Free course:
Your FREE Positive Coaching Program: (email subscription requested)
Friday, August 05, 2005
Workplace Conflicts : How to survive a bad Manager
The best advice for having a bad manager is to seek other employment. Don't undervalue your happiness: it's impossible to be happy if you work directly for someone you canÂ’t stand. It may be difficult to find another job, but if you are willing to make compromises in other areas (salary, position, project, location, etc.) it will certainly be possible. Being happy and underpaid is a much better way to spend a life than unhappy and anything else.
How to survive a bad manager - scottberkun.com
How to survive a bad manager - scottberkun.com
Thursday, August 04, 2005
Conflict Resolution in the classroom
Adrian has put a good paper of using Conflict Resolution with their students.
more: Using Peer Mediation Helps Students Resolve Conflict:
Adrian H. Cline, Superintendent"
more: Using Peer Mediation Helps Students Resolve Conflict:
Adrian H. Cline, Superintendent"
Secrets to reload your batteries
Today I was kind of lost in the details of daily chores, with the impression that I was not moving, when I stumbe into this posting from MellowQueen. Sometimes you just have to ask the questions, and the answers will come..
Have you ever started a new project full to the brim with enthusiasm only to have your enthusiasm and motivation wane as the months go by?
read more:
Mellow Queen: 5 Tips To Increase Your Personal Power
(Thanks mellowqueen!)
Have you ever started a new project full to the brim with enthusiasm only to have your enthusiasm and motivation wane as the months go by?
read more:
Mellow Queen: 5 Tips To Increase Your Personal Power
(Thanks mellowqueen!)
Wednesday, August 03, 2005
Something for the office politics
Cultivate your Knowledge: "Office Conflict Resolution
Tuesday, August 02, 2005
from Melissa C. Stöppler, M.D.,
Your Guide to Stress Management.Communication Tips for a Healthy Workplace
Misunderstandings and communication problems remain one of the most common sources of workplace strife. While conflict is inevitable, it need not ruin your workday or cause unbearable stress. Try these conflict resolution tips to make your work environment a less stressful, more productive place.
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This is a nice article on workplace CR . I think there is a need to recognize the conflict resolution is a skill that managers have to master. But it has not make its way to a MB curricula yet.
Tuesday, August 02, 2005
from Melissa C. Stöppler, M.D.,
Your Guide to Stress Management.Communication Tips for a Healthy Workplace
Misunderstandings and communication problems remain one of the most common sources of workplace strife. While conflict is inevitable, it need not ruin your workday or cause unbearable stress. Try these conflict resolution tips to make your work environment a less stressful, more productive place.
"
This is a nice article on workplace CR . I think there is a need to recognize the conflict resolution is a skill that managers have to master. But it has not make its way to a MB curricula yet.
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