tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-150677392012-01-03T15:16:10.401+01:00Positive ConflictsMy views on interpersonal conflicts, relationships, life, the universe and everything elseNeil Warnernoreply@blogger.comBlogger961100tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-47556041311343029032012-01-03T15:04:00.000+01:002012-01-03T15:04:52.119+01:00New Year’s Resolutions Doomed to Fail?Isn’t it wonderful how we submit to the pixie dust of year end’s magic?Besides running here and there to present our best image, our best table and food, our best dress, house, etc, we also enter into a magic territory when it is necessary to design vital goals for us.Because? Just because now, only now, there is an open door to making them happen!More: New Year’s Resolutions Doomed to Fail?Neil Warnernoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-44057486837260005972011-10-06T18:42:00.000+02:002011-10-06T18:42:04.520+02:0080% of Men Feel They Have No Responsibility to Be Open With Loved Ones80% of Men Feel They Have No Responsibility to Be Open With Loved OnesNora Curtishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07611094385910850758noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-89420488234048290192011-10-04T18:54:00.000+02:002011-10-04T18:54:12.070+02:0068% of Men Prefer to Retreat and Say “Yes” To Avoid FightingNora Curtishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07611094385910850758noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-10047692353941400632011-09-23T17:53:00.000+02:002011-09-23T17:53:58.406+02:00Teaching Your Husband to Stop: Is This the Cure for Your Unhappiness?Teaching Your Husband to Stop: Is This the Cure for Your Unhappiness?Nora Curtishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07611094385910850758noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-44292021802209345532011-09-23T17:48:00.000+02:002011-09-23T17:48:52.692+02:00How To Replace Abusive Behavior with Positive LoveNora Curtishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07611094385910850758noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-59043227539454024112011-09-09T19:10:00.000+02:002011-09-09T19:10:41.983+02:00Being Less Passive Aggressive Means Appreciating MoreNora Curtishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07611094385910850758noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-71720293515433710932011-08-29T21:55:00.000+02:002011-08-29T21:55:48.700+02:00Husbands: What Will You Lose If You Don’t Stop Your Passive Aggression?Husbands: What Will You Lose If You Don’t Stop Your Passive Aggression?Nora Curtishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07611094385910850758noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-55012557560856712392011-08-22T16:07:00.000+02:002011-08-22T16:07:37.489+02:00Can There be Boundaries to Love?Nora Curtishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07611094385910850758noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-78144259163494723752011-08-04T02:51:00.000+02:002011-08-04T02:51:25.674+02:00New System to End Your Husband’s Passive Aggression!New System to End Your Husband’s Passive Aggression!Nora Curtishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07611094385910850758noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-33198535114120062562011-07-16T00:34:00.000+02:002011-07-16T00:34:43.343+02:00The Three C’s of Passive AggressionThe Three C’s of Passive AggressionNora Curtishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07611094385910850758noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-81540591062083369842011-07-01T22:21:00.000+02:002011-07-01T22:21:04.511+02:00Independence from Passive Aggression Day!Independence from Passive Aggression Day!Nora Curtishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07611094385910850758noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-78877595307504754902011-06-22T15:26:00.000+02:002011-06-22T15:26:38.763+02:00Relationship repair: The anger you hear is her painRelationship repair: The anger you hear is her painNora Curtishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07611094385910850758noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-68770077757412224752011-06-08T03:21:00.000+02:002011-06-08T03:21:06.827+02:00Passive Aggressive AttachmentPassive Aggressive AttachmentNora Curtishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07611094385910850758noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-87094883094058639972011-05-27T18:51:00.000+02:002011-05-27T18:51:58.481+02:00Would you Program Your Brain for High Self-Esteem?Would you Program Your Brain for High Self-Esteem?Nora Curtishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07611094385910850758noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-24594432828348299682011-05-27T00:04:00.000+02:002011-05-27T00:04:18.814+02:00Defending yourself from love with passive aggression?Defending yourself from love with passive aggression?Nora Curtishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07611094385910850758noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-79751102691304917542011-05-11T19:55:00.000+02:002011-05-13T22:38:54.858+02:00Will you be there for me?Will you be there for me?Nora Curtishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07611094385910850758noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-17419314168617706452011-04-29T16:34:00.000+02:002011-04-29T16:34:23.953+02:00Is Your Passive Aggressive Husband in Denial?Is Your Passive Aggressive Husband in Denial?Nora Curtishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07611094385910850758noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-71094143989700908172011-04-22T22:16:00.000+02:002011-04-22T22:16:28.715+02:00How Does Passive Aggression Kill Communication?How Does Passive Aggression Kill Communication?Nora Curtishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07611094385910850758noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-90098059241340503822011-04-19T03:51:00.000+02:002011-04-19T03:51:20.727+02:00Secretos del Mediador Exitoso: Seminario Taller en Mediación TALLER DE CASOS - Buenos AiresSecretos del Mediador Exitoso: Seminario Taller en Mediación TALLER DE CASOS - Buenos Aires: "http://www.inter-mediacion.com/seminarios2.htm"Nora Curtishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07611094385910850758noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-10156698590725040902011-04-18T18:43:00.000+02:002011-04-18T18:43:41.916+02:00Changing passive aggression in your mind?Changing passive aggression in your mind?Nora Curtishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07611094385910850758noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-35867795153034508562011-04-12T23:21:00.000+02:002011-04-12T23:21:25.145+02:0010 Rules for Friendly Fighting for Couples (Guest Post)10 Rules for Friendly Fighting for Couples (Guest Post)Nora Curtishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07611094385910850758noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-71140350372958899892011-04-06T01:47:00.000+02:002011-04-06T01:47:17.643+02:00Destroying love, one bit at the timeDestroying love, one bit at the timeNora Curtishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07611094385910850758noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-85393823985209074612011-04-04T15:45:00.000+02:002011-04-04T15:45:18.418+02:00Repair work in a marriage is easy!Repair work in a marriage is easy!Nora Curtishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07611094385910850758noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-74153901947029299452011-03-28T18:18:00.000+02:002011-03-28T18:18:07.814+02:00Ending the Sadness of Passive Aggressive RelationshipsEnding the Sadness of Passive Aggressive RelationshipsNora Curtishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07611094385910850758noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-53831656956715801862011-03-22T15:57:00.000+01:002011-03-22T15:57:45.064+01:00Passive Aggression: Stop Welcoming It Home!Passive Aggression: Stop Welcoming It Home!Nora Curtishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07611094385910850758noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-41545148308662462622011-03-15T22:25:00.000+01:002011-03-15T22:25:35.615+01:00Is Conflict our Way of Growing Up?Is Conflict our Way of Growing Up?Nora Curtishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07611094385910850758noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-85539368519714796172011-03-15T22:19:00.000+01:002011-03-15T22:19:25.080+01:00Avoid Teaching Passive Aggression to Your ChildAvoid Teaching Passive Aggression to Your ChildNora Curtishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07611094385910850758noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-47398727763235395992011-02-28T23:52:00.000+01:002011-02-28T23:52:55.334+01:00His Silence Can Hurt Your Marriage!His Silence Can Hurt Your Marriage!Nora Curtishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07611094385910850758noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-84550665358143381552011-02-25T01:01:00.000+01:002011-02-25T01:01:23.803+01:00How to Raise a Healthy, Happy Family?How to Raise a Healthy, Happy Family?Nora Curtishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07611094385910850758noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-34957863054340688122011-02-18T22:01:00.000+01:002011-02-18T22:01:56.598+01:00Help! I Feel So Frustrated with my Life!Help! I Feel So Frustrated with my Life!Nora Curtishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07611094385910850758noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-18048573035645370402011-02-14T21:59:00.000+01:002011-02-14T21:59:10.662+01:00A Valentine for your inner child? why not?A Valentine for your inner child? why not?Nora Curtishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07611094385910850758noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-35389571480015725892011-02-11T14:29:00.000+01:002011-02-11T14:29:50.912+01:00Jane Handly Childhood Story MovieJane Handly Childhood Story MovieNora Curtishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07611094385910850758noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-63197461601737073112011-02-04T21:06:00.000+01:002011-02-04T21:06:56.333+01:00Skills for Managing Relationship ConflictSkills for Managing Relationship ConflictNora Curtishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07611094385910850758noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-68910090297320067262011-01-28T04:19:00.000+01:002011-01-28T04:19:16.639+01:00How to reduce your need for controlHow to reduce your need for controlNora Curtishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07611094385910850758noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-77776681941964107302011-01-21T22:18:00.000+01:002011-01-21T22:18:54.811+01:00Stop confusing your brain!Stop confusing your brain!Nora Curtishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07611094385910850758noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-84042530260478549872011-01-20T16:43:00.000+01:002011-01-20T16:43:43.205+01:00How to Confront People Without FightingHow to Confront People Without FightingNora Curtishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07611094385910850758noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-36369991851593664152010-12-26T23:04:00.000+01:002010-12-26T23:04:01.211+01:00A Different Christmas StoryA Different Christmas StoryNora Curtishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07611094385910850758noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-44859528449785866502010-12-15T19:19:00.000+01:002010-12-15T19:19:18.414+01:005 Steps for Anger-Free Holidays!5 Steps for Anger-Free Holidays!Nora Curtishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07611094385910850758noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-47881166483241569962010-12-11T22:40:00.000+01:002010-12-11T22:40:13.197+01:00Dealing with Passive Aggressive Personalities: What are the gifts you'd like to give to your loved ones throughout the year?Dealing with Passive Aggressive Personalities: What are the gifts you'd like to give to your loved ones throughout the year?Nora Curtishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07611094385910850758noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-9126106595401228082010-12-10T03:12:00.000+01:002010-12-10T03:12:27.056+01:00Healing a Toxic Love RelationshipHealing a Toxic Love RelationshipNora Curtishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07611094385910850758noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-59856796726208935132010-12-10T03:07:00.000+01:002010-12-10T03:07:31.059+01:00How to Stop Your Partner’s IntimidationHow to Stop Your Partner’s IntimidationNora Curtishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07611094385910850758noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-81499319388473010112010-12-02T15:18:00.000+01:002010-12-02T15:18:10.613+01:00Learning from Conflicts Creates Resilience!Learning from Conflicts Creates Resilience!Nora Curtishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07611094385910850758noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-54358049597202509142010-11-25T15:01:00.001+01:002010-11-25T15:02:00.969+01:00Lincoln's Thanksgiving Proclamation is worth a new read!Abraham Lincoln's Thanksgiving Proclamation(from the collection of Lincoln's papers in the Library of America series, Vol II, pp. 520-521).
The year that is d
Abraham Lincoln's Thanksgiving Proclamation
(from the collection of Lincoln's papers in the Library of America series, Vol II, pp. 520-521).
The year that is drawing towards its close, has been filled with the blessings of fruitful Nora Curtishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07611094385910850758noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-46630014011314503852010-11-17T22:09:00.000+01:002010-11-17T22:09:15.017+01:00Can you fight with love?Can you fight with love?Nora Curtishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07611094385910850758noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-16095136458926439162010-11-03T16:33:00.000+01:002010-11-03T16:33:43.764+01:00Happy Marriages are a Work of LoveHappy Marriages are a Work of LoveNora Curtishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07611094385910850758noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-16807539253076107192010-11-01T22:27:00.000+01:002010-11-01T22:27:51.485+01:00Trust in a passive aggressive relationshipTrust in a passive aggressive relationshipNora Curtishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07611094385910850758noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-34956474843059443142010-11-01T01:58:00.000+01:002010-11-01T01:58:48.524+01:00Couple disputes are a shield against intimacyCouple disputes are a shield against intimacyNora Curtishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07611094385910850758noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-88619714788343530952010-10-15T15:48:00.000+02:002010-10-15T15:48:42.679+02:00Emotional Conflict produced by Mind Games?Emotional Conflict produced by Mind Games?Does a fight with your partner often result in them putting all the blame on you and your shortcomings?The biggest temptation in a situation like this, as it drags on and on and you feel worse and worse, is to say “Yes, you’re right” and end the conversation. They walk away with a satisfied look and you finally have some space. But there’s something else Nora Curtishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07611094385910850758noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-15315010960707103052010-10-07T13:36:00.000+02:002010-10-07T13:36:35.895+02:00Emotional Abuse – Overt and CovertEmotional Abuse: Overt and CovertNeil Warnernoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-2191276025188212112010-10-07T13:15:00.000+02:002010-10-07T13:15:36.444+02:00Emotional Abuse – Overt and CovertEmotional Abuse – Overt and CovertNora Curtishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07611094385910850758noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-3916297035919189982008-05-17T21:49:00.005+02:002008-05-17T22:00:17.152+02:00Why do we describe conflict as positive?Why do we describe conflict as positive?Because conflict is the signal to process the inevitable changes in our lives! Well understood, conflict is the connection between change and growth and conflict!We will never know what we can do without challenge and opposition by others. We will never develop new skills if sheer necessity does not force us to do so. In short, without conflict, we will Nora Curtishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07611094385910850758noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-69459665848033801752008-04-28T15:19:00.003+02:002008-04-28T15:35:01.711+02:00HOW COUPLES PROCESS CHANGE IS WHAT MATTERSAs long as we live, we are immersed in a social network that is continually evolving. If you don’t want to live like a hermit in the forest, completely severing all ties with the outside world; if you don’t want to play dead, doing whatever you can to avoid conflict, then you constructively and fearlessly have to deal with conflict in one way or another. Nora Curtishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07611094385910850758noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-41270173049589127712008-02-24T19:39:00.002+01:002008-02-24T21:19:38.372+01:00HEAVEN AND HELLHEAVEN AND HELLA violent samurai warrior with a reputation for provoking fights for no reason arrived at the gates of a Zen monastery and asked to speak to the master.Without hesitating, Ryokan went to meet him.‘They say that intelligence is more powerful than brute force,’ said the samurai. ‘Can you explain to me what heaven and hell are?’Ryokan said nothing.‘You see?’ bellowed the samurai. ‘I Nora Curtishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07611094385910850758noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-86369748287754303892008-02-13T21:28:00.003+01:002008-02-13T21:33:51.200+01:00LOVE, CHOCOLATE AND DANGEROUS THINGSLove, chocolate and dangerous thingsIt’s St. Valentine day again and you wonder where the love excitement in your life is? It’s just here!We know the basics, right? When you fall in love, there are certain chemicals in your brain that make all your perspective shift into high gear…you really know that you are in love, because you feel it all the time. Your pulse quickens; your heart beats and Nora Curtishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07611094385910850758noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-81370038627139410502007-11-18T19:26:00.000+01:002007-11-18T19:45:19.164+01:00Why do couples fight?Why do couples fight? Marital squabbles can be over lots of things: · Control struggles (who's in charge) and how decisions are made· Degree of reciprocal control or independence· Treatment of in-laws and significant relatives· Sex: how, when, why, by whom, varieties· Money: earning, managing, saving and spendingWith the objective of controlling, humiliating or winning over the other, all Nora Curtishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07611094385910850758noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-74205884875670445602007-11-13T17:24:00.000+01:002007-11-13T17:29:50.088+01:00Visualize your Desires! Here is how:Visualize and Affirm Your Desired Outcomes: A Step-by-Step GuideYou have within you an awesome power that most of us have never been taught to use. Elite athletes use it. The super rich use it. And peak performers in all fields are now starting to use it.That power is called visualization. The daily practice of visualizing your dreams as already complete can rapidly accelerate your achievement ofNora Curtishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07611094385910850758noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-87086113914256616102007-11-04T16:00:00.000+01:002007-11-05T22:06:03.486+01:00How do You React to Conflict?We can have several reactions to conflict, depending on what past experiences have taught us:Fight fire with fire and answer with more defensiveness, including verbal and physical violence.Deny the conflict, hide inside and avoid future conversations on problematic issues.Give up and go along with others, forgetting our own interests and finally compromising our souls.Decide to get our own way noNora Curtishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07611094385910850758noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-80827492927018783172007-10-25T21:06:00.000+02:002007-10-25T21:15:26.998+02:00Fair Fighting improves Women's chances of avoiding a heart attackRecent research has shown that our bodies are intertwined with all our emotional states. Our hearts, lungs, stomach and all our internal organs respond to the stress level we experience. Our bodies are faster than the mind to recognize emotional threats in a way that we are not so much aware of, and this can have devastating effects in our health. What happens when you look for peace and love Neil Warnernoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-15951835709869252052007-06-20T04:49:00.000+02:002007-06-20T04:59:28.220+02:00Focusing the mind on the positiveWe all go through some tough times in life, that’s just life; it can’t always be a bed of roses, if we are going to learn and grow up.However life is the total sum of your experiences, its meaning being what you make of it. The frame you use to understand your own experiences is the most important aspect of them. If you call them “learning experiences” the results will be different than if you Neil Warnernoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-9201087826451217722007-06-01T15:39:00.000+02:002007-06-01T16:27:14.810+02:00The Importance of RecognitionThis skill focuses on the ability to appreciate the positive aspects of everything around you: and if you are in a relationship, all that concerns your partner. Instead of having a perception of a glass half empty, you should instead focus on the "glass half full."It takes sustained practice, because all of us have been educated with a critical view. If you are an engineer doing a project, this Neil Warnernoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-67760484112853452232007-05-17T15:36:00.000+02:002007-05-17T07:27:12.230+02:00Relationships & Disputes: It’s your attitude that counts! Every relationship will have its share of conflicts, disagreements and arguments – and that’s normal! What is essential is the right personal attitude towards managing the confrontations… we are either scared into answering with a strong attack as defense, or frozen in fear.For some people, disagreements send a panic signal, like a sign that the elationship is flawed, or that we are more flawed Neil Warnernoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-68169389928660653442007-05-14T15:39:00.000+02:002007-05-17T07:29:46.381+02:006 Keys to Understand Relationships & FightingProbably the vast majority of what you have learned until today about resolving conflicts wasn't very successful. Conflicts are often handled in two main ways: either to avoid or to confront and both were yielding very poor results. We need to learn other ways to manage conflict in such a way that we can come out of it enriched, with a sense of growing ability, and experiencing a stronger bond Neil Warnernoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-46857155995471059942007-04-29T15:39:00.000+02:002007-05-17T07:31:05.964+02:00Discover Why 99% of Disputes in a Relationship are not what you think they are We all understand how challenging arguments or even simple differences of opinion can be in relationships. People get very afraid of confrontation, and use any pretext to hide from the actual heart of the dispute. Many will quickly resort to asking for a lawyer’s help, hoping the professional will spare them the nasty interaction they are trying to avoid.Every relationship will have its share ofNeil Warnernoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-2556601338936626232007-04-29T15:31:00.000+02:002007-05-17T07:31:29.957+02:006 Keys to Understand Relationships & Fighting Probably the vast majority of what you have learned until today about resolving conflicts wasn't very successful. Conflicts are often handled in two main ways: either to avoid or to confront and both were yielding very poor results. We need to learn other ways to manage conflict in such a way that we can come out of it enriched, with a sense of growing ability, and experiencing a stronger bond Neil Warnernoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-1165920276302376182006-12-12T11:26:00.000+01:002006-12-12T11:48:28.996+01:00You Need To Turn the Heat on when… Life confronts you with situations like this:Your birthday is approaching and occasional, not so subtle hints to your fiancée about having your birthday dinner and party at the new French Restaurant in your town was all you thought it would take for him to “get it”!But, as the big day arrived you discover that he arranged for your birthday celebration to be with his friends at his Neil Warnernoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-1151313782008985082006-06-26T11:23:00.000+02:002006-06-26T11:23:02.053+02:00How a Technique From a Dolphin Trainer can Help Your Marriage?Be warned this article is written from a female perspective, but the techniques are gender neutral. What is clever is those behaviours that we re-discover in animals are 100% human too. And with some common sense they could be applied to our daily life.What Shamu Taught Me About a Happy Marriage - New York Times: "What Shamu Taught Me About a Happy MarriageBy AMY SUTHERLANDAS I wash dishes at theNeil Warnernoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-1149668720661399622006-06-07T10:25:00.000+02:002006-06-07T11:16:33.516+02:00About ResponsabilityMany times we hide behind excuses, and we try to avoid our responsibility for where we are in this life.If you think that you are a victim of your past, just remember that no matter how bad that was, you are the only master of your future. Stack the cards in your favor and start acting towards your goals.Learn the skills that you need to succeed at work atFRACAT - Free Resume and Career Toolbox Neil Warnernoreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-1144481379448359722006-04-08T09:28:00.000+02:002006-04-08T09:29:39.466+02:00What kind of future is possible for this relationship?I know you are frustrated by the amount of work needed by recognizing and managing the PA person’s passivity and hidden anger. If all this is not enough work, now you need to be aware of your second task, as important as the first and it is to take care of yourself. Women need to confront a romantic assumption that is so common: we believe in solidarity, and in taking care of each other. If you Neil Warnernoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-1141743731253769562006-03-07T16:02:00.000+01:002006-03-07T16:02:11.296+01:00Four Ways of Understanding Passive Aggressive Behavior while keeping your sanity!Understanding Passive Aggressive Behavior while keeping your sanity!How can you pursue this relationship without being hurt?Here is a short list of indicators to keep you aware of what is going on:1.- The hidden anger aspect:Passive Aggressive people carry a lot of repressed anger from their childhood, now projected on the people around them. It appears as sarcastic comments, derisive opinions Neil Warnernoreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-1139216997828183992006-02-06T10:09:00.000+01:002006-02-06T10:13:53.093+01:00Individual ResponsibilityI found this site very challenging as it goes against my current (should I say past) point of view. What it strike me, is the clear message of 'Take Responsibility' that it delivers. Individual Responsibility: "I am thirty-five years old, but have only recently learned the lessons of Individual Responsibility. For most of my life, I've blamed others (family, employers, politicians) for my Neil Warnernoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-1137504346611947742006-01-17T14:16:00.000+01:002006-01-17T15:22:05.256+01:00Preventing Negative Emotions from Blowing Up Your RelationshipsNegative emotions should be left out as much as possible from your interactions, by denying or repressing them. (This is a short term strategy, but in the long term is preferable to manage those emotions in a different way).Now, you can let them dissipate without hurt, by following the following Steps:a) Stop escalation, and ask for time off, if you can’t control your rage. See if you can Neil Warnernoreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-1134673751572457332005-12-15T20:07:00.000+01:002005-12-15T20:09:11.596+01:00Too many conflicts in your life now?Have you ever found yourself thinking something like this string of thoughts?:“This person is yelling at me, like she is attacking me, so she must be against me, so she is my enemy. If this person is my enemy, then, by definition, she is incapable of change and improvement, and is undeserving of trust and respect, now and forever. I have to defend myself against this person, who will always be Neil Warnernoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-1132329377365891532005-11-18T16:43:00.000+01:002005-11-18T17:00:25.110+01:00“HOLIDAY BLUES” avoidance planFeelinig lonely or isolated in this period of Thanksgiving?Take these steps for a "Blues Free" celebration! What is the most important element in your relationships with others this Holiday Season? To be based on positive feelings of belonging and love, right?Here we are again, looking at a new holiday season.It provides us with several opportunities to reevaluate where we are and who loves us…..Neil Warnernoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-1130165247881599222005-10-24T16:47:00.000+02:002005-10-24T22:15:23.913+02:00The answers are within you, my friend.What do you do when you have to take a decision?I normally will delay until I have the feeling that is the right moment.I know it is not a rational way to handle this things, but I seems to work for me. For other circumstances a more methodological approach may be handy. And that is exactly what Gina Trapani describes in her article:Four ways to make a big decision. But take this approach with a Neil Warnernoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-1129539969029299812005-10-17T11:06:00.000+02:002005-10-17T11:23:07.466+02:00Gear up your OptimismOur views are highly influenced by our own internal feelings.By cultivating a positive view, we can make our life much better, and we will be more open to accept what life has to offer, talking much of the stress that is generated when we fight against adversity.This does not mean we need to forget our dreams and needs. It means that evey event can be seen in a necessary step that will bring usNeil Warnernoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-1127139292942796252005-09-19T16:14:00.000+02:002005-09-19T16:40:43.813+02:00More food for the mindThe Stockdale ParadoxHow do you keep your Optimism in the adversity?This short text has a diamond at the very end. And yes, I think that at the end we will prevail.EnjoyJuan Pablo MattenetTransform your Conflicts into positive energy!Neil Warnernoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-1126599661573418052005-09-13T10:21:00.000+02:002005-09-13T10:21:01.590+02:00Feeding your Brain bit by bitConflicts, are seldom related to how we feel about ourselves in relation to the others.
Comparing is then a good thing to do. Right?
Think, then read the rest:
DailyOM - Comparing Yourself To Others
Juan Pablo Mattenet
PositiveConflicts.com
Neil Warnernoreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-1126256661874466202005-09-09T11:04:00.000+02:002005-09-09T11:05:55.876+02:00Imprisoned by your thoughts?Problems exist only in the human mind.-- Anthony de MelloFor most of us, there's always a long 'to do' list. That's a fact.And it's easy to feel victimized. 'Poor me!' That's not a fact. That is a choice.Experiment with your life to explore how much your mind is your jailer. Simply let go of the 'oh woe' kinds of thoughts. Silence your mind. Be right here, right now. Decide what you will doNeil Warnernoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-1126005728256140082005-09-06T13:22:00.000+02:002005-09-06T13:22:08.270+02:00Don't take it personally (Sound Advice?)One of the difficulties on handling conflicts is that we tend to take them personally. This short post has some advice on detaching the People from the actions.
Read more Sowing the Seeds of Glorious Living!: Neil Warnernoreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-1125639477138446872005-09-02T07:37:00.000+02:002005-09-02T07:37:57.150+02:00Escalation of Interpersonal ConflictConflict is a part of most every interpersonal relationship.
Managing conflict, then, is important if the relationship is to be long-lasting and rewarding. Learning how to manage conflict involves being able to identify the steps in any escalating confrontation, and being able to stop the escalation and do emotional repair by reinforcing the positive aspects of the relationship."
More: Neil Warnernoreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-1125405827567351552005-08-30T14:43:00.000+02:002005-08-30T14:43:47.593+02:00Conformity, Why is so attractiveReading this interesting article about the Chimpanzees, I can't but speculate how much of this behaviour we mirror ourselves.
Kids are particularly vulnerable to the social pressure to conform to society rules and as adults wear some of these attitudes without even realizing that we are doing it.
Don't take me wrong, some degree of conformity is needed, but sometimes we approach our relations, Neil Warnernoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-1125048982042271572005-08-26T11:36:00.000+02:002005-08-26T11:36:22.050+02:00Quote of the Day"Before you agree to do anything that might add even the smallest amount of stress to your life, ask yourself:
What is my truest intention?
Give yourself time to let a yes resound within you.
When it’s right, I guarantee that your entire body will feel it."
Oprah Winfrey, O Magazine, October 2002
Quotations WeblogNeil Warnernoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-1124705862197769272005-08-22T12:17:00.000+02:002005-08-22T12:17:42.203+02:00Creative Problem SolvingThe InnovationMarketers blog has a great post that give the 7 steps to be more open to creative problem solving.
Read it and live by the steps
1. Visualize ultimate success
2. Be still and know that the answer is within you
3. Be patient
4. Create a positive environment
5. Take time away
6. Engage others in the creative process
7. Meditate
InnovationMarketers blog: Creative Problem SolvingNeil Warnernoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-1124204920672664672005-08-16T17:08:00.000+02:002005-08-16T17:08:40.696+02:00Do you feel the Pain?From INC:
It didn’t make any sense. Kevin Steele, co-owner of Karaoke Star, a Phoenix retailer of karaoke equipment, noticed that the number of people clicking on his paid search-engine ads had shot from 200 to 800 a day. But despite the apparent jump in traffic, sales hadn’t budged. Steele and his partner, Diana Frerick, had built their business on Internet advertising, and more clicks almost Neil Warnernoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-1124195102511555672005-08-16T14:25:00.000+02:002005-08-16T14:25:02.520+02:00BlogHer bitsWhile anger can be used as a tool, sometimes the person who’s angry is a tool.
Read More: the [non]billable hour: Blogher Brain DumpNeil Warnernoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-1124109670780175222005-08-15T14:41:00.000+02:002005-08-15T14:59:25.883+02:00Who are you, really?Many times, when people ask me "Where are you from", and I can't give a straight answer, I realize that the way we define our identity have not evolved with the time.Sherry has put an article on asking a the simple question of Who are you :"When I ask people the question 'Who are you?' I'm usually greeted with silence. People are not sure; in fact, some have never even stopped to think about Neil Warnernoreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-1124093110312999582005-08-15T10:05:00.000+02:002005-08-15T10:05:13.126+02:00Positive Coaching ProgramWhy do we describe conflict as positive?
Learn the connection between change and growth and conflict!
You will never know what you can do without challenge and opposition.
You will never develop new skills if sheer necessity does not force us to do so.
In short, without conflict, YOU will never grow.
When you engage others in positive conflict, you are telling them that he/she is important Neil Warnernoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-1123703344255482322005-08-10T21:49:00.000+02:002005-08-10T21:52:12.856+02:0012 useful negotiating tipsTwelve Useful Negotiating TipsBy Tristan Loo1. Avoid the YOU and YOUR words at all costs when dealing with an angry person. "You did this." Or "It was your fault" is a direct attack on the person you are talking to and they're instinct will be to defend themselves or counterattack.2. Speak very softly when your counterpart is yelling. This voice-leading technique will force them to lower theirNeil Warnernoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-1123618381821971272005-08-09T22:13:00.000+02:002005-08-09T22:16:50.843+02:00Are your afraid of Conflict?You have experienced your share of conflict in your life (and who hasn't? )You may even be afraid of conflict.Perhaps you lost big time when you tried to impose your views on your spouse; or your best friendship ended in sour recriminations that nobody wanted, but nobody could stop.What are the lessons?What did you learn?To go the other way, of course!The reaction can be so extreme as to deny Neil Warnernoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-1123603419827112662005-08-09T18:03:00.000+02:002005-08-09T18:06:14.456+02:00What is their story?This is a nice piece that show us how personal is the perception of the reality.When confronted to conflict we should see if we can view the reality from the story that the other side presents..Small Business - Be a Better Liar Page: "Be a Better Liar"Neil Warnernoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-1123393835348948662005-08-07T07:50:00.000+02:002005-08-07T07:50:35.356+02:00Rules of Productive Fighting Sonny G. has this interesting article on the Art of Fair Fighting.
4. Don't talk trash; don't call each other names........ like - you're a POS, you look like a @#%&*, you're a liar, you're a pig. Or words that tend to put down and demean the other. If your partner is a liar, or a pig why did you marry him/her?The things you say in anger actually boomerangs and makes you look stupid. Talking Neil Warnernoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-1123322255619142912005-08-06T11:57:00.000+02:002005-08-06T12:01:02.586+02:00A 5 days Positive Coaching ProgramDoes this strike a cord for you?Conflict seems to be the very stuff of life, bringing up all the most difficult emotions — anger, mistrust, resentment, loneliness — and the saddest outcomes. It makes us sad, depressed, but also unhealthy.A broken heart is not only a metaphor, but a reality: the physical consequences of aggression and fighting are felt much longer after a strong discussion ends, Neil Warnernoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-1123251595543392272005-08-05T16:19:00.000+02:002005-08-05T16:19:55.546+02:00Workplace Conflicts : How to survive a bad ManagerThe best advice for having a bad manager is to seek other employment. Don't undervalue your happiness: it's impossible to be happy if you work directly for someone you canÂt stand. It may be difficult to find another job, but if you are willing to make compromises in other areas (salary, position, project, location, etc.) it will certainly be possible. Being happy and underpaid is a much better Neil Warnernoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-1123159472877516822005-08-04T14:43:00.000+02:002005-08-04T14:44:32.880+02:00Conflict Resolution in the classroomAdrian has put a good paper of using Conflict Resolution with their students.more: Using Peer Mediation Helps Students Resolve Conflict:Adrian H. Cline, Superintendent"Neil Warnernoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-1123157656630867862005-08-04T14:14:00.000+02:002005-08-04T14:14:16.633+02:00Secrets to reload your batteriesToday I was kind of lost in the details of daily chores, with the impression that I was not moving, when I stumbe into this posting from MellowQueen. Sometimes you just have to ask the questions, and the answers will come..
Have you ever started a new project full to the brim with enthusiasm only to have your enthusiasm and motivation wane as the months go by?
read more:
Mellow Queen: 5 Tips Neil Warnernoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-15067739.post-1123061060614832832005-08-03T11:24:00.000+02:002005-08-03T11:24:20.616+02:00Something for the office politicsCultivate your Knowledge: "Office Conflict Resolution
Tuesday, August 02, 2005
from Melissa C. Stöppler, M.D.,
Your Guide to Stress Management.Communication Tips for a Healthy Workplace
Misunderstandings and communication problems remain one of the most common sources of workplace strife. While conflict is inevitable, it need not ruin your workday or cause unbearable stress. Try these Neil Warnernoreply@blogger.com0